Staying Happily Married

Staying married is easy. Staying happily married is another ball game altogether. And one that takes some effort. When you are newly-weds, married life is like an adventure with the thrill of discovering your partner every day. But as time passes, with children and added responsibilities, the romance faded away.

If you are bored of living the same monotonous routine,  it is time to infuse some freshness into the relationship:

• Go on a Date – Set aside an evening for each other.  Talk about anything except for your family, kids, bills.  Remember how the initial days of courtship were and aim to recreate that magic…
• Express your love in a tangible way by gestures, kisses and more importantly, words of affirmation! Say “I love you” and look into each other’s eyes when you do so.
• Keep in touch…literally. Touch your partner more often when out in public. Holding hands, impromptu hugs, touching face, hair, shoulder…anything. These non-sexual but comforting actions tell your partner how much you like being connected to them. Don’t shy away – let your children see and feel how much you love, care and respect each other.
• Keep surprising your partner – Stop taking your partner for granted. Surprise your partner, like writing a love note, sending flowers or a weekend getaway to some exotic location. 
• Take up a common hobby – it is never too late to learn something together as a couple so as to connect with each other in a passionate way.

Small things make all the difference to keep that spark alive. Get out of your comfort zone. Stop making excuses of lack of time and energy. Find a solution to those excuses. Your partner and your marriage are worth that effort!