It is often difficult to confront someone regarding an offence. Do you think confrontation is necessary? Ignoring confrontation is often the cause of bad feelings. Those ugly feeling can reside in a person, churning away until he comes so upset that he can hardly think straight.
Personally, I believe it is better to say what or how you feel and get over with it than to allow those emotions to turn into an ugly monster, just waiting for the opportune moment to attack the victim. This happens when ugly emotions go unchecked. Confrontation, though uncomfortable, may be less painful than having to apologize later for erupting in a fit of flesh like a volcano that spews destructive lava all over its surroundings.
Really, it is about the issue of honesty. Are we honest about how we think and feel? Inside they seethe with anger towards someone about a perceived offence; yet on the outside, they smile and pretend as if everything is all right.
When you refuse to confront an offence, you are just as wrong as the one who violated your rights. Jesus said…”if they brother trespass against thee, rebuke him, if he repents, forgives him – (Luke 17:3). If you are going to be mature in your relationships, you must learn how to confront others when you feel they have wronged you. It may be difficult to do that, but it’s a lot less painful and leaves fewer scars than does a soul that is filled with bitterness and resentment.
Prayer does wonder
Prayers resolve a lot of problems by itself. Prayer will put you in a position where God can speak to your own heart. After praying, if you still sense that you are supposed to confront the other person, pray for that person first. The Spirit of God may give you a strategy regarding the situation, what to say, when and how to say it.
Confrontation with prayer will bring you to a new level where you can deal with the issue in the right spirit.
Don’t be judgmental
Do not treat the other person as an enemy. Your relationship may be going through some rough times, but you must view the two of you as being on the same side. The purpose of this confrontation is not to prove how wrong the other persons is; it is to learn how to work better together and keep the channel of communication open.
Personally, I believe it is better to say what or how you feel and get over with it than to allow those emotions to turn into an ugly monster, just waiting for the opportune moment to attack the victim. This happens when ugly emotions go unchecked. Confrontation, though uncomfortable, may be less painful than having to apologize later for erupting in a fit of flesh like a volcano that spews destructive lava all over its surroundings.
Really, it is about the issue of honesty. Are we honest about how we think and feel? Inside they seethe with anger towards someone about a perceived offence; yet on the outside, they smile and pretend as if everything is all right.
When you refuse to confront an offence, you are just as wrong as the one who violated your rights. Jesus said…”if they brother trespass against thee, rebuke him, if he repents, forgives him – (Luke 17:3). If you are going to be mature in your relationships, you must learn how to confront others when you feel they have wronged you. It may be difficult to do that, but it’s a lot less painful and leaves fewer scars than does a soul that is filled with bitterness and resentment.
Prayer does wonder
Prayers resolve a lot of problems by itself. Prayer will put you in a position where God can speak to your own heart. After praying, if you still sense that you are supposed to confront the other person, pray for that person first. The Spirit of God may give you a strategy regarding the situation, what to say, when and how to say it.
Confrontation with prayer will bring you to a new level where you can deal with the issue in the right spirit.
Don’t be judgmental
Do not treat the other person as an enemy. Your relationship may be going through some rough times, but you must view the two of you as being on the same side. The purpose of this confrontation is not to prove how wrong the other persons is; it is to learn how to work better together and keep the channel of communication open.
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